DEXTER Blake is a Jamaican-born New York City high-profile radio host. He’s a jovial, an all-round nice guy who regularly hosts awards ceremonies in New York to honour and celebrate the talent of Jamaican singers, DJs, actors, comedians, and other creative specialists.
But this Christmas Blake will have little to celebrate as his dreams for a happy Christmas have been shattered and ruined. His plan was to have his two Jamaican-born children from St Elizabeth join him permanently in New York this Christmas.
The boy is seven and the girl is nine, and Blake started filing for them over four years ago. Their rooms were prepared and decorated; their winter clothes were bought and plans were being made for them to transition into New York City schools after a merry Christmas.
But last week Blake had to confront a father’s worse nightmare. A DNA report that was ordered by the United States Embassy in Kingston proved that he is not the biological father of the two children by two different mothers that he thought were his own, and whom he had raised from birth. In reality, both mothers, one 35 and the other 32, were running rackets with jackets!
“Since I heard this wicked and cruel news last week, I’ve been shocked, devastated; my blood pressure has gone through the roof and I cry every day,” Blake told the Jamaica Observer. “I was there in St Elizabeth for the birth of both children I’ve been in their lives since day one and at this point I have spent over US$300,000 on both to take care of all expenses, including schooling, holidays, books, medical and emergency spending,” he lamented.
Blake, who is a US citizen, pointed out that he was in a relationship with both women — one for two years and the other for a year. He declares a deep love for his children and told the Sunday Observer that his daughter was born on the day that Barack Obama first won the US presidential election. He reckoned that both children were at the age where they should join him in New York, and so he filed for both of them together. A requirement for citizenship approval via a biological parent is the mandatory DNA test that has to be done at the embassy in Kingston by a certified specialist. The test was done for the children on November 13 and the heart-breaking results came back to Blake last week.
“I was dumbfounded, traumatised and crushed when the news came in the form of a letter saying that I am not the biological father of neither kids, based on extensive testing,” Blake murmured, the disbelief still lingering in his now muted radio voice. “I confronted both mothers immediately and the boy’s mother apologised, but the mother of the girl denied it, saying it is a big fat lie”.
Blake has not spoken to the children since, but he says every muscle in his heart succumbs to intense pain each time he looks at the photos of them on his phone screen.
He is not sure what happens next and confusion still clouds his mind, but he thinks a first step to healing may be counselling.
His advice to fathers and future fathers is to run a DNA test before placing your name on the birth certificate, as it appears that many Jamaican women are running rackets with ‘jackets’ based on the partner who is best able to cough up the cash.